{"id":4,"date":"2015-03-12T18:30:26","date_gmt":"2015-03-12T18:30:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/servantspouse.com\/?p=4"},"modified":"2015-03-16T15:38:21","modified_gmt":"2015-03-16T20:38:21","slug":"blog","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/servantspouse.com\/?p=4","title":{"rendered":"One Foot Out The Door – Intro"},"content":{"rendered":"
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One Foot Out the Door is a reflection on the challenges of marriage. I think most of us\u00a0get married either hoping for or believing in \u201cHappily Ever After\u201d. Unfortunately, the\u00a0\u201cflying high feeling\u201d of the \u201ctingles\u201d we enjoy in the\u00a0early stages of dating change over\u00a0time and we start to wonder if the absence of \u201ctinglies\u201d is evidence that we were \u201cnot\u00a0meant to be\u201d? Or worse \u201cHas my spouse fallen OUT of love with me\u201d? \u00a0As of today my husband Jim and I have been married for almost 19 years. We have 2\u00a0wonderful boys ages 12 and 8 (almost 9) and despite all of the\u00a0crisis, trauma, disappointments,\u00a0and hurt…we are still married. We are very much in\u00a0love today; more than we ever\u00a0were in the past \u2013 even more than the \u201ctingly\u201d phase. \u00a0Some couples are lucky enough\u00a0to enjoy every stage of their marriages as being very happy; looking forward to each\u00a0stage of marriage to be better than the last, to always feel loved and appreciated, to\u00a0know day in and day out that they married their soulmate and that life without their\u00a0spouse would be awful. Unfortunately that in NO way describes our marriage and I\u00a0would guess, since you are reading this blog, it probably does not describe your\u00a0marriage either?\u00a0It is a terrible empty feeling the day you first wonder if your marriage is salvageable. \u00a0As human beings we strive to \u201cdo well\u201d at life and\u00a0that includes our marriage and\u00a0family life. Admitting our marriage is not working\u00a0and possibly struggling is not an\u00a0easy thing to admit. If we do admit it to ourselves\u00a0and then have the guts to admit it\u00a0to someone else, it is common for others, even professionals and friends, to minimize\u00a0our pain by saying \u201call marriages have challenges\u201d or dismiss our pain by saying \u201cI\u2019ll\u00a0pray for you.\u201d The reality is that both of those statements are very true BUT when\u00a0you are the one struggling they are just words and can seem insincere because they\u00a0offer no practical help today. Today is when I need\u00a0help or assistance. How do I\u00a0make it through today (in my marriage) when today is full of pain, misunderstanding,\u00a0etc. When the distance I need to travel between today and marital happiness seems\u00a0more than a lifetime away. When the anger I feel just compounds day after day and\u00a0the tension in our house is thick like smoke, its hard\u00a0to see happiness in our future.\u00a0What can I do today?\u00a0For each marriage that struggles, it\u2019s at differing degrees of suffering, differing speeds\u00a0of destruction and differing symptoms that remind us daily that our marriage could\u00a0be in trouble.\u00a0So if knowledge that all couples have challenges and\u00a0that others are praying for us is\u00a0nice but not helpful, is there anything I can do today\u00a0to turn my marriage around?\u00a0Yes, I can turn my marriage around by changing how I\u00a0look at marriage and how I act\u00a0in and about my marriage.<\/div>\n
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God has challenged my husband and I in ways we never could\u00a0have imagined. God\u2019s hand has\u00a0pulled us from some terrible situations and navigated us past misery and\u00a0hopelessness to freedom, love, understanding and awe! We have learned much about\u00a0ourselves, each other and most importantly our marriage. In this journey God\u00a0revealed to us wisdom we hope will help you find comfort and peace as you journey\u00a0toward your happily ever after with your spouse. \u00a0Each chapter of this book\/blog will give practical TODAY knowledge and suggestions\u00a0that will help turn your marriage around, not just to \u201cbetter\u201d but \u201cbetter than I could have ever imagined\u201d.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\u00a0So Let’s begin TODAY and take it one day at a time.<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n
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